DR.LUV: 3 Hard to Believe Truths about Men

Ladies, are there certain things you believe about men and relationships that can actually be HURTING your chances at real and lasting love?

Now, you tell me if you agree with any of these statements about men:

STATEMENT 1:

Men like a challenge. They like the chase. If you are too easy or approachable, they will get bored, or lose interest!

STATEMENT 2:

Men are dominant in relationship and women therefore are unable to express themselves.

STATEMENT 3:

Men cheat and are incapable of being monogamous.

STATEMENT 4:

Men would secretly love to date and sleep with different women the rest of their life rather than just have to stay with one serious committed relationship.

STATEMENT 5:

Men just want to have fun and freedom without responsibility.

So, do you find yourself nodding at any of these? Do you feel like having a fulfilling and connected relationship would be easy if it weren’t for the ‘hang-ups’ men have about commitment or talking about how they feel?

If so, then it’s likely you’re NOT experiencing the kind of easy, effortless love that you want and deserve with a man, simply because you don’t UNDERSTAND what it takes for him to:

a.      Feel ‘in love’ with you.

b.      Want to make you happy.

c.       Want to devote himself to you and only you.

Here, the 3 TRUTHS ABOUT MEN and HOW THEY REALLY THINK and FEEL INSIDE OF RELATIONSHIPS.

TRUTH 1:

Men Don’t Need to Chase

It’s been said many times by many people that men need to be made to chase a woman in order to want her and commit wholeheartedly.

NOT TRUE!

In fact, this is plain wrong. Rather than wanting to ‘chase’ a woman, men are humans first. Which means: They want and need to feel deep, emotional level of attraction for a woman if they are going to be moved to want bigger and better things with you in their life. That everyday ‘Physical Attraction’ a man can feel for any cute women who walks by is not enough, and will never be enough to make him want something more than a casual fling.

Long story short;

Men can and will want to get close to you even if they just feel this Physical Attraction for you and you will likely have a hard time figuring out if they are or aren’t feeling that deeper and more intense and lasting Emotional Attraction.

Not to mention, a men will get easily bored with you and be lazy about a relationship or any kind of commitment if he’s not feeling this Emotional Attraction for you.

What is EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION…?

Emotional attraction goes way beyond what a women looks like, what she says or how successful she is.

If a men senses that a women knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to go after it, and that she has certain ‘standards’ of what she will or won’t put up with from a man, then he will feel incredibly drawn to her.

It has nothing to do with playing GAMES or pretending to be HARD TO GET.

 

If you think that men just want to chase a women and that acting or being unavailable is a turn-on for him, then you are not going to get far with a men.

What works for keeping a men interested in you date after date, week after week, is something magical that can only happen if he’s feeling emotional attraction for you.

TRUTH 2:

Men Feel Emotions Just Like Women.

Believe me, men are pretty sensitive!

It is just how they handle what they feel that makes them hard to connect with about it, and hard to understand.

Unless you know what is going on with how men handle these things in the first place. Men have a hard time dealing with strong emotions from women.

So you know…

In a recent groundbreaking study of how couples interact when in conflict, it was discovered that men often LOOK DETACHED or WITHDRAWN because they feel intensely STRESSED by the argument.

It is not that they are more ‘in control’.

On the contrary, they feel LESS in control.

So they withdraw in order to try and cope.

Fascinating.

One of the things men often say to women when there’s a conflict or tension in the relationship is, “why are you being so dramatic?”

Annoying, right?

That is his way of saying, “This is getting to intense and I don’t know how to handle it.”

You have the power to bring him closer, even when you have something you need to express that isn’t light or cheerful.

There are certain ways to bring up difficult subjects to a man that ENGAGE him and make him want to do everything in his power to make you feel loved, safe, and comfortable.

Does it seem like an impossible feat?

It is not.

TRUTH 3:

Men Want Relationships.

Men want to be in a relationship, and they have a strong desire to feel recognized as a great partner by their women.

Have you ever accused a man of being ‘not ready’ for a relationship?

Here is a mind-blowing statistic: WOMEN break off relationships or file for a divorce 70% of the time.

That means, women are the ones initiating the end of a relationship much more often than men.

If that surprises you, you may also be surprised to know that a men enjoys being in committed, loving relationships as much as women does.

AS LONG AS IT DOESN’T FEEL HARD TO HIM.

If you give a man the impression that he can’t please you no matter WHAT he does, or that everything he does is pointless because he can’t do ANYTHING right, then guess what?

He’s going to wonder if he is the right partner for you, and he’s going to begin to doubt whether or not he should even continue the relationship.

Maybe you are saying, “But I don’t do that!”

It’s true. You may not even be aware that you are doing this.

But there are certain words and phrases that communicate this to a man whether you are aware of it or not.

Instead, when you show a man that you trust him to be a good partner to you; you will actually inspire him and trigger his devotion and attraction for you.

Would you like to know what to DO and SAY to men to inspire him to be a better partner to you, WITHOUT accidentally communicating to him that your relationship isn’t working for him? We’ll see it later!

Salah Siapa...???

Lately ny, terlalu banyak kes remaja buang bayi dan penyerbuan kelab hiburan yang menawarkan khidmat sex. Masalahnye, bila kes macam ni jadi, semua pihak menuding jari kepada satu same lain sampaika problem ni tak jumpe pun jln penyelesaian, malahan semakin teruk dari sehari ke sehari…

Dalam kes remaja buang bayi, I tak faham la mcm mane manusia yg Allah kurniakan sebaik-baik akal boleh bertindak sekeji iblis. Kalau rase taknak kat baby tu, jgn la buang mereka. Mereka tak berdosa, mereka suci. Hantarlah kat pusat penjagaan ataupun kalau dah tak boleh sangat, serahkan amanat tu kepada mereka yang memang menginginkan anak tapi belum dikurniakan rezeki. I am just so sad dengan sikap Iblis yang ditunjukkan oleh golongan ini. Pandai buat, pandai mengandung, pandai bersalin, kenelah pandai jaga baby tu… bukannye pandai buang dan bunuh. Ape punye manusia anda ni???

Kes ni terlalu banyak sampai I terfikir sendiri, dunia akhir zaman dah tiba??? Lebih-lebih lagi bile 1 watch a documentary yg bertajuk The Arrival. Senang je nak bunuh orang rupenye ye? Tak susah… bunuh, pastu tinggal la kan… bukti dunia memang terhapus la, bukti kat Mahkamah Besar nanti, terhapus kew??? Kenape ye, manusia ni walaupun ade akal, tapi sifatnya, jahil lagi keji mengalahkan haiwan yang tidak berakal? Haiwan bergaduh dan memburu each other tu normal la… dah name pun haiwan… ni yang memegang title manusia, khalifah kat muka bumi ni, ape masalah kalian smpi perbuatan hina mcm ni jd amalan biase??? Mana pergi sifat humanity dlm diri anda tu??? Akal yg Allah kurniakan tu anda bagi haiwan makan kew??? Sampai sanggup bersalin dalam mangkuk tandas, biar kepala baby tu tersangkut kat situ… nauzubillah…

  

Hot story kat paper, tv, and internet… ranking number 1… kelab hiburan yg menawarkan khidmat sex… berita lame yg semakin lame semakin menjadi barah di kalangan kita… dah gersang sgt, cari la yg sah… lepaskan gersang kat tempat yg salah, mcm mane??? 1 question from my mama that makes me thinks it more than twice… ‘macam mane la lelaki2 ni lalu nak meratah pelacur2 cine, Myanmar, indon ny ye?? Tak geli ke???’ Betul jugak kan… tapi, for me, it doesn’t important because yg penting, pedang samurai itu bertemu sarungnye… am I right?? Nak geli??? I don’t think so mereka yg gersang ni fikir geli… yg penting gurun itu perlu diredakan gersangnye…

Just want to share my experience here. I guess in March this year, when our friend just comes back from Australia. He asked my good friend to hang around at Penang. So, my good friend here has invited me to join them. I said yes, I can accompany him. We hang around, and have to say that we spent our time at a club there… at first, he told me to watch a live band, but unfortunately, that night has no live band performing. Sadly, I have to spend my night watching them dancing and dancing and dancing till the dawn… tired and sick with all the fog… waaaaa!

Later on, around 4 am, we went to Nasi Kandar restaurant there, serving a very fresh nasi kandar. However, I cant eat at all… hehehe.. while they are having their nasi kandar, I was observing people around me… just imagine, a teenagers, around 15 years old, dressing like a prostitute (have to say this because they seems don’t realize that their apparel just so disgusting, even human in ice age dressed much better than them). I don’t know what all these girls think about themselves, but I feel ashamed because when I was in their age, I feel nasty to wear that apparel.

Well, that is not my real point. The thing I wanna ask here is that, where is their parents? Don’t they care about their daughter playing around with the immature guys out there?? Don’t tell me that these girls and these young guys just hang around, after dancing, having nasi kandar, and then going back to home? No, it seems more than that. The way they walk, the way they hug and hold each other, kissing each other… come on, you shouldn’t do that in public…

I feel bad for our teenagers nowadays. Pretty, but useless! Not all of them, but for teenagers in this category, please back to basic. I admit that some of them who are going to club, or hang around still can score in their education. Dancing is one of the ways they release their tension, I never deny it. But how many of them? Tell me…

Bila dah berpeleseran mcm ny, terbuat, kunun making love la… termengandung, terbersalin, terbuang anak, mulalah mak ayah cakap, “ni semua salah cg kat skola, sye hantar anak sye g skola, nape cg tak tgk2kan anak sye? Ni jd mcm ny, malu sye cg!” Cg plak jd mangse keadaan. Bila cg marah, rotan kat skola, siap datang mcm Panglima Angkatan Perang, “Cg igt cg sape nk tegur2 anak sye? Sye pun tak penah jentik anak sy tau!” 

Cg kene maki hamun smpi masuk berita utama kat TV3…  sebab tak penah tegur, jentik, tu pasal anak tak berapa nak jadi manusia…tu la, mcm kes kat atas, pukul 4 pg baru keluar dr club, pakaian mengalahkan zaman ice age (ice age lg bertamadun), perangai mengalahkan pelacur kat lorong Hj Taib tu ha… adik2, dah merenyam sgt, mintak mak kawenkan… lebih afdal kan??? Mengeluh pakcik2 kat restaurant tersebut memerhatikan anak muda ini… tak pasti pulak mengeluh because of sedih dengan scenario ini ataupun mengeluh tak dpt pucuk muda… yg itu, lu pk la sendiri…haha!

Its not my intention for being Miss Busybody here, because I am not perfect as well. It is just, please have a look how silly, poor, and uneducated our teenagers in term of mentally. Do something, otherwise they won’t be a human… trust me!

Wonderful Trip To Air Asia Academy

It’s kinda late to write down about our trip to Air Asia. But, since I’m just so busy with my task, assignment, responsibilities in my Residential Area, Meeting and etc, I can’t write any little thing about our wonderful trip there. Poor me…

The trip was happened on 12 March 2010 at Air Asia Academy. As a Project Manager of this trip, I am so thankful to my efficient Vice Project Manager Mr. KA and my excellent secretary, Miss Melanie Ong. At the moment, we are having our mid semester exam, and even worse, our lecturer cum our Project Adviser have to go to Jordan for a conference. I had already completed the paper work of course, it’s my responsibility. Melanie called the Air Asia, and she really did a great job. Once COB approved our paper work, it’s the time for us to settle down about the transportation, and other administrative task. And this task has been done by KA, who is helped me a lot. Sometimes, I guess he deserve to get my position of course!  Until the night for our departure time, (hehehe we are going by bus not flight) I still can’t breathe easily.

We transit at KLIA for shower and pray, then went to LCCT for our breakfast. Once we are ready, Air Asia Academy was the next destination. Our arrival is kindly welcomed by Miss Safina, who is very friendly, as well as Mr. Liew who is very humble and has a great sense of humor. In short, I feel so glad because they are not underestimating us even though we are just a student you know. They treat us very nicely, and shortly briefing about Air Asia history (even though we really did a research before we went there).

 

The time they explain about Air Asia history, a group of their stewardess coming in and OMG, they are not only just gorgeous, but they are also very friendly. I am not saying this because of I’ve made a trip to Air Asia and not to the other Airlines Company in Malaysia, but this is the reality. My lecturer, Mr. Hasnizam also seems very happy to see them on the moment. Haha it is when the naughty guy in him acting…  

Mr. Liew is our tourist guide on the day. He brings us to all around the academy. Furthermore, he gives us a chance to drive the simulator. My lecturer handles it and we are assume as dead because the plane is crushed! Hahaha poor pilot! 

Simulator of course the best experience for us because it is really like handling the real plane. Air Asia staffs who are handling the stimulator also a very nice person. They answered all the questions patiently even though sometime when I think it back, it sounds kinda silly. They are very friendly too! How many times did I mention about friendly here? Haha they deserve it of course!

We visit their café, grooming room, classes, and in short almost one academy. It is wonderful to be there! The most attractive view of course about their wall. Graffiti on the wall is like a story. Tony Fernandez with his team, as well as the logo ‘Air Asia Allstars’. According to Mr. Liew, Air Asia believes that everybody can be a star. See? They are not underestimate people at all! Hihi even though we do realize that to be a part of them, we must fulfill the requirement. Oh, can I apply any administration or marketing position at Air Asia? Hehe… it must be a great experience to be a part of them. 

This wasn’t my first time on visiting a big company like Air Asia. I went to several companies before, but the team is quite underestimating us. Maybe because we are still pursuing our degree and they fell that they are much better than them. I don’t have to mention their name of course; it will embarrass them of course. But being with Air Asia is the greatest moment for completing our final project.

To be honest, actually Air Asia is not our first choice. The first choice was Media Prima. Melanie communicate with their PIC, she is very friendly and kind. However, the date we recommended is not compatible with them. They are only free around April which we are having our final exam on that month. Even though we are not able to be at Media Prima, but yet I still want to thank them because they treat us nicely. In other words, negotiable.

After discussing with our members of committee, then we agree to choose Air Asia and again, Melanie plays her role as our great secretary. Thank God, Air Asia accepts our proposal. Why do I choose these 2 big company even though they from different industry? Because their marketing strategy is GREAT! That is why.

There are a lot of memories to be share here about Air Asia but I just don’t know how. They are just so wonderful, and I really adore their spirits to give only the best for their clients. Cheap price doesn’t mean cheap in servicing people. They always concern about their clients satisfaction and during the visit, they are also concern about our satisfaction as well.

There is nothing wrong to be in Air Asia, it is a wonderful trip and I am very proud to list down everything we get during the trip for our report. I can see my Dean smiling when he read my report about our input when we are there. He satisfied and he said, next time we can organize this trip to the others as well. Last word, Go Further, Air Asia!!!! 

oh ya, you may catch Air Asia through the facebook!

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Air-Asia